Friday, March 16, 2007

WEEKEND LUV - THE SO AMAZIN' EDITION

Hey Everyone!
Bon Friday! How was your week? I am sooooo sorry about my inconsistent blogging over the last 2 weeks. Don’t worry, all is very well….I will be back with a bang next week!
So what did you guys get up to? I just worked, worked and worked! I think it might be a fun weekend though so that’s good!
Please email me if you have any suggestions for the blog or anything else really! My email address is bellanaija@gmail.com

The Blogs
Abuja Babe’s Blog
I have really been enjoying Abuja Babe’s blog since I discovered it about 2 weeks ago….Tres interesting.

Arin’s Odyssey
I just discovered this blog today! Very interesting…it chronicles her unconventional love story…nice one!

What’s Hot
I have been addicted to Uzo’s Blogger Bachelorette Series since she started. If you havent caught on or need to catch on. Check on it - HERE

Mona's blog has been on fire this week...Good Job Girl - HERE

Happy Birthday Dimples!!! Here is the website she has been promoting - http://jobvacanciesnigeria.com

Everywhere I turn, people are talking about the LV ‘Ghana Must Go’ but if I remember correctly, we talked about it about 6 months ago – HERE…so bellanaija readers are clearly ahead of the curve...lol.. What’s hot right now is the $46,000 bag Louis Vuitton Bag! Darn its ugly…Marc Jacobs must have been high when he thought up that one!


Be sure to check out the new edition of Linda Ikeji’s Mag…Here is a snippet from the new edition featuring MTV Networks Africa VP, Alex Okosi
Also be sure to visit her blog - HERE


Here are some more ‘interesting’ Idol West Africa Auditions that I haven’t put up before…
Watch at your own risk!

Its Murdaaaaaaa
Chiwendu – OMG! Tooooo mad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Essien – The babe really tried to infuse phonetics into her singing…unforts, it didn’t work!
Armstrong – Its murdaaaaaaaaa
Estelle – wow!
Chinwe – I’ve shown this before but it’s just too classic
Adeshina – amazing!!!!!
Collins – aka Smook da Thug….LMAO need I add more? You need to hear this!!! Don’t lie some of u would buy his cd…well at least the pirated copy!
Thesalona – seriously?
David – he really killed them!
Rasta Eric – yes monnnnn
Oghenevwarho – Elvis reincarnated
Adeola – rawwwwwk on
Tribal Singer (Ejiro) – repping for the villagers
George - nightmares
Etete
Francis - WTF
Michael – U have to watch this! Wow..shaking my head~
Ubuja
Chuks

Just Bad!
Henry – lol but actually not tht bad
Iyke – Jackie Chan meets MJ meets Fela mennnnn
Pauline – the sad part is that she really thought her singing was actually good..it wasn’t!
Fuseini – nooooooooooooo
Ifeanyi – He was not bad at all but the ‘moves’ killed it…then he fired at the judges…
Danny – just aiight
Beatrice – She wasn’t bad but tried to overdo things really
John – no no no no no
The Group – they need to shed some members
Shalom – no words!
Holyrock – Pavarotti would be proud
Oluwafemi – I’m traumatized!!
Dayo – naaaaaaaaaa
Imhoagewe – as Dede said ‘tht’s not singin, that’s croaking’
Christopher - lol
Joseph – lolz
Matthias – not tht bad
Solaman
Samual
Olufemi
Emini
Holyrock
Francis
Jacob

The Hits
FaZe – Tattoo Girls
FaZe’s album ‘Independent’ is just tooo hot! Y’all need this album! It’s the hottest Nigerian album that I’ve heard in a long time…This song is another banger..hot!

Tony Tetuila featuring Ruff, Rugged & Raw – Omode Meta (Save Target As)
Tony Tetuila – My Kind of Woman (Save Target As)
Brings back memories!!!!

Random Question of the Week
Someone emailed me this and I think it’s a good question but can't make an Aunty Bella post about it because she didn’t give enough details but here goes anyway -

My boyfriend and I plan on getting married by year end. He wants me to sign a prenup as a condition for us to get married. What do u think of it? What do people think?

Have a great weekend y'all!
Ciao, Bella...

35 comments:

C said...

I'm first! Bella, you gast to give me soming o!

Gosh! the singers, the singers...
...and the model is chop-able

Dammie said...

Prenup WHATTTTT?!....Y is he thinking they are going to get a divorce already....LoL, I think she should jus not marry him again. LoL


Have a niceeee weekenddddd

XxKiss kissxX

BOBBY said...

I am personally down with pre-nups. Whatever!

Leave as you entered...

truth said...

Dammie calling it off isn't a great suggestion you know.'Truth' is it is not an idle excuse to call off one's wedding.
To the damsel in a little (i hope) distress, you might need to ask your Mr. what his motives and expectations are by asking you to commit to a pre-nupt.Then ask him what his side of the prenupt insists on and based on his reply,I believe your intuition will lead you to a reasonable conclusion.
By now, you shd know his level of committment. I also suggest you openly state your fears and concerns in signing one.
I hope your final decision subcides your fears abt signing a prenupt.If you do, remember to place the stakes really high and expect the same from him.IT'S NOT ABOUT WHAT YOU STAND TO GAIN,IT'S ABOUT WHAT YOU HOPE AND PRAY HE'S AFRAID TO LOOSE.
Good luck dear.
Bella now I'm gonna return to those sad Idol clips.Ciao.

zaiprincesa said...

A Nigerian that believes in Prenuptual agreements??? This is a first oh....lol(im assuming they r naija)..Hmm, i think it depends on the actual terms of the prenup, if it isnt too drastic (i.e, u dont get jack regardless of the number of years or number of bambinos..lol), then im cool with it. ..especially if she's got her own thing going or if shes wealthy in her own rights. Have a blessed weekend.

Anonymous said...

Great Blog as usual Bella


Re your friend -
She needs to get a good divorce lawyer or family lawyer to look at this prenup before you sign it. Negotiate, negotiate and negotiate donot compromise, because it will come back to bite lyou. Its what all the famous people do. Cause if you sign it, you know it is legally binding.

Anonymous said...

Hey Bella, I'm a big fan of your blog although i've never posted. In response to your friend who's fiance has asked her to sign a pre-nup, here's my professional advice (i'm a divorce attorney in the states).

first, i would ask if either one of them is very wealthy - by wealthy, i don't mean if one or both of them has houses, car, etc. I'm talking about multi-millionaire status at least in the states. if so, then it really is not inconsiderate for the wealthier spouse to want to protect his or her assets in such a situation.

THE BEST THING FOR HER TO DO WOULD BE TO CONSULT AN ATTORNEY.

I would highly recommend that she negotiate a graduated pre-nup, wherein she would be guaranteed a certain amount of money depending on certain factors - length of marriage at time of divorce, number of children, etc. For eg. she would get a lump sum personal payment of say $200K for each year they were married and say $200K for each child born of the marriage. (This is separate and apart from child support).

If they are not millionaires, then she should negotiate the pre-nup, making sure to request that she is entitled to portions of the fiance's 401K & pension benefits, share of any assets purchased during the marriage, etc. Also, I would advise her to negotiate such things as the provisions for the education of any of the children born of the marriage (thru the establishment of 529 plans for eg., which the fiance would fund), so she is not left begging for money to send her kids to school in the future in the event of a divorce. She should also negotiate that he obtain insurance on his life naming her (or their children) as sole irrevocable beneficiaries.

As a Nigerian, I would ask her to negotiate that she be named beneficiary of his estate during the marriage, to ensure that she (and her kids) will be well provided for should fiance die prematurely. Because if he's already worried that he might lose his assets now, I bet you "his people" have already identified those assets as "theirs."

Sorry for the long comment, but I actually think that by asking for a pre-nup, the fiance may have opened the door for this woman to protect herself and her children's future!!! :)

mystoriesmytestimonies said...

love ur post as usual...
have a blessed fun weekend

azuka said...

Pre-nups have that lack of trust smell to them. I wouldn't really know though -- it depends on how they both feel about it.

chika said...

Hey gurl,u got me rolling on the floor with this idol audition thing.its an absolute joke.

MIADiva said...

naija prenup ke. That one is new, my answer I am a Nigerian woman my culture does not believe in prenup. Se the man has money, so he is flexing, then I will go the American route and agree to the prenup, with my own conditions. A gauranteed amount for every year we are together, a gauranteed amount for every child we have, a set amount for every affair he has and I can prove. A set amount for alimony payments and child support payments after the divorce, the choice to keep the marital home or monetary value. All property (house, cars etc)used and purchased during the marriage will be divided in half. I keep all expensive gifts either purchased by him or given to us during the marriage and a clause that allows me to increase any set amount, if the net worth of the husband increases over 33% during the marriage. I never realized how much thought I put into prenups, on second thought I support prenups, all Nigerian women get one, whether is rich or not, you don't want to be Iya risi, who's husbands throws her out in the middle of the night with nothing :o

JJ said...

Marc was high on something when he designed that bag...he just checked in to rehab recently, warramess! A man that would ask me to sign a prenup is a no-no in my book, why is he thinking of the possibility of a divorce? Nonsense and ingredients...

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

I definitely understand the hesitation that talk of a prenup can raise. However, depending on where you two are economically, emotionally, maybe it isn't a bad idea. As others have suggested, get a lawyer - and a damn good one at that.

Do you know why he wants one? Can you guys get around the prenup issue via counseling with a pastor, counselor, or someone else you both trust and respect? If you are not comfortable with a prenup then you don't want to sign it until you are. And, if there are unresolved issues in your relationship, you guys want to address it prior to the wedding day so you can both figure out how to deal with them.

Well, best of luck to you and I hope that whatever you chose is beneficial to both of you.

Nanya said...

That LV purse is an eyesore and apparently the homey Marc is in rehab right now so you might be on to something. As far as prenups go if they both feel strong about it and have talked about the reasons etc and neither one is swayed by the others argument then they should try and move on (lol). I personally don't think its a huge deal cos when it comes down to it people really do not stay together/divorce because of a prenup or lack thereof. It just comes in handy after that decision has been made.

Lolita said...

About the prenuptial agreement, I believe that one’s husband should be willing to die for his wife ........and vice versa.

Having said that, is this fella under the impression that he makes more than you? Actually, you know what, it doesn't matter, a prenup stinks of uncertainty; if he does not trust that you are the one that he is prepared to leave all his belongings then maybe you should steer clear.

One could argue that if the woman was not interested in him only for his money (like the George Clooney/Catherine Zeta-Jones Movie) then she should agree to it.

Hey but maybe it is not a monetary-based prenup? Maybe it is a prenup that outlines each party’s expectations and consequences during the marriage hey, then that’s a novel idea....but wait, wouldn't that be the marriage vows?


Nope, I'm back to not liking the idea..................RUN!

Dimples said...

Oh thanks Bella on the shout!!!..Nice one had a FAB day.

WOW!! how much did u say that butt ugly bag was??..And u know there's going to be some sick ass waiting list for it..

Yeah IDOL has been just too crazy..i entertain myself with it b4 i sleep most nites...I can't wait to see who wins.

Totally concur on the Faze album...it's very impressive...better than his 1st..totally love "Kolomental"

As for ur random question...totally agree with what anon.Attorney had to say...really unless homeboy is the freaking heir to the throne or rakes in millions by the hour he should wake up and freaking face reality...are they Naija's by anychance??

Have a FAB weekend all..and yeah please check the site out...quite useful.

Anonymous said...

Ciao Bella

Your friend should listen to the advice from the anon 8.44am and Anon Divorce lawyer 9.02am.

The divorce lawyer giving free advice? Tell her to take it and run with it. The man is actually saving her from future unseen circumstances

leibe said...

To the lady asking if she should agree to a pre-nup,..My advice is if the fiance is mega rich, i mean a multi-millonaire then i would advice she seek advice from a right source.
If the fiance aint mega-rich, then my advice is RUN, obviously he isnt ready to get married yet, still looking for excuses to back out...thread carefully girlie!..lol
On the west african idol, i must say the judge by the name of Dede is WACK!, he is sooooo clueless, offpoint, full of BS....oh dont get me started, he should be replaced by someone that can at least give meaningful critisism, he obviously dont have what it takes to be a critic...
Each time he opens his mouth, i get more and more confused....what does he mean by (do me a song)..lawd,,wtf!!!

Olawunmi said...

still loving your blog. thats alkl i wanted to say. make i go read sef.

Olawunmi said...

despite my own light-hearted comments on the subject, i am not a big fan of prenuptial agreements. however, i am a realist, and i recognise that in the real word there are situations in which people need to protect themselves before a preventable and forseeable mishap occurs. the most obvious example applies to celebrities and people who already have substantial financial assets, which they would stand to lose if their union doesn't work out as they might expect it to.

i think your friend needs to get a few things sorted. but i'd like to know a few facts before hand. things like their current financial/employment realities are, are material to whatever advice i can offer.

as a person, i'd ask her to speak with her fiance first, to identify his reasons for insisting on a prenup. the reality is that marriages do fail, and preparing for one should not be any more significant than taking out life insurance. but they need to dialogue, and find out where they both are. if they have love between them, they should be able to work this out.

as a lawyer though (wetin, you no know say i go school?), i'd advise her to consult a good lawyer and have him look at that prenup before she signs it. since he has opted for the pragmatic route, there is no reason why she shouldn't also be esensible. let her lawyers examine the contents of the document, and the provisions for her own security. if they do divorce, what is she entitled to? what if he abandons her? what penalty does he pay if the marriage ends through his infidelity? these are important questions that somebody needs to answer.

since they are going the prenup route, they might as well go the whole hog. there is no point one person going in blind, if the other person intends to have their eyes open. afterall, it is a marriage, and not a contract of slavery (and you know there were no such things)

Lolita said...

On WAI (not to be confused with War Against Indiscipline, hee hee):

Bella, Smook da thug, LMAO, what was up with his hand!!!

OMG, thank you for this edition, I have many funny thoughts running around in my head to keep me laughing all weekend.


Cheers!

tatafo! said...

so has anyone actually bought the Marc Jacobs bag?
Bella you've really made me start appreciating naija artistes, thanks!

Beyond said...

Thanks for posting updates on the idol auditions, really having fun watching them.
Have a 1daful weekend.

Jaycee said...

Singing a song: "Oh how I loveeee Bella Naija's weekend editions...all I have to do is click and I'm here on saturday...too much fun! Shoprai Shoprai..." Lolll...

Anonymous said...

Hello Bella

Of course there will be some crazy fool buying that Marc Jacobs bag.

Prenup - seek good legal advice

Thanks once again

Mari said...

Well, I like the bag. I don't agree with the price but if it was reasonable and I could afford it, I would buy it.

Favoured Girl said...

Thanks for the post Bella!

On the Pre-nup issue, it's definitely a no-no in my book. I think it shifts the balance of a relationship from a healthy partnership where it's "all I have I share with you" to each party only looking out for their own interests. And what are the terms of this pre-nup? Why get married to someone in the first place if they don't trust you?

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

i don't really believe in prenups but maybe in a few years my answer will change.. dede sucks baby bottom, so does the louis vuitton bag.. abujababe's blog rocks... and so you do bella.. mami.. your gist is always correct.. rock on!

Anonymous said...

Interesting comments from lots of people. A good number have asked for the provisions of security and payments to the wife. I bet they are all females who still believe that the guy is the slave of the woman. If the brother is asking for a prenup, then it means he is not willing to split 50-50 as required by the law. So why will he agree to a prenup that asks him to pay her based on years of marriage...is the girl a whore to want to receive payment for every year of marriage. I thought girls belived in equality, so why are they hesitant on taking only what they brought into the marriage plus their contribution during the marriage.

Secondly, a prenup does not only protect assets prior to the marriage. It may also look after assets during the marriage as well as stuff if one party should die. I am surprised that none of the lawyers who gave advise mentioned this point. Maybe female lawyers with a bias.

Trish said...

A prenup is not a bad, especially in this day and age...and more so in north america. As long as the terms are fair, then why not...more so when more and more marriages fail. I dont think it is unfair of either party to ask for one. A prenup may say that all business ventures are the sole property of the owner on the title (business ownership document) and shall not be split if a divorce occurs. If the guy owns his house prior to marriage, it may protect his pre-marriage asset of the soon-to-be matrinomial home. Why should he want to loose that portion of his wealth.
Under the law, irrespective of who cheats everything is shared 50-50, so if the wife cheats, why should the guy pay her.

Toni Payne said...

hey lady.. hows it hanging.? just dropped by to say hello.

Mona said...

Thanks for the clicks and the shout out honey! xx

holyroxxx!! said...

i'm in love with holyrock!! i used to live to catch his lirrule performance with the twists and tings!! i wld buy his album in a megasecond!!

AbujaBabe said...

Hiya Bella Thanks for the shout out B Glad u enjoy!...
Ciao for now hun...xxx

Naija Jinx said...

I'm your Closet Fan. Being reading your blog from time to time. Great write ups. Still trying to figure out how you get all these pictures and insights to fashion.