tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post6495155515205396776..comments2024-01-09T09:21:14.168+00:00Comments on Bella Naija: AUNTY BELLA - MISS CONFUSEDUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger45125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-42672401957737094502008-10-29T18:20:00.000+00:002008-10-29T18:20:00.000+00:00soo your Mr.Bf is hooked on Alaska uhh...You know ...soo your Mr.Bf is hooked on Alaska uhh...<BR/><BR/>You know what? being able to give and take in a relationship is very key...he needs to learn to compromise and so do you. If you both cant talk it out and reach a decent agreement then let that relationship die out..<BR/><BR/>If you relocated and something happens that causes yall to break-up, you will foever blame him and yourself. Know what you||..KinG's DaughteR..||https://www.blogger.com/profile/01038102666294154560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-6498130009439064532007-11-08T12:44:00.000+00:002007-11-08T12:44:00.000+00:00I imagine that all these varying comments could on...I imagine that all these varying comments could only have left Ms confused even all the more confused.<BR/><BR/>No matter what anyone says, you make the decision yourself at the end of the day. And if you take anyone's advice it will be the one that most resembles your opinion.<BR/><BR/>It would be interesting to know what happens in the end though. So please keep us posted.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-30448086999369349932007-11-05T06:13:00.000+00:002007-11-05T06:13:00.000+00:00I totally agree with intellectualdiva. read her co...I totally agree with intellectualdiva. read her comment again!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-55163637127893680692007-11-03T14:50:00.000+00:002007-11-03T14:50:00.000+00:00This sort of happened to someone in my family rece...This sort of happened to someone in my family recently. In this persons case they were ENGAGED and had a home together. One person wanted to move, the other didn't. One wanted to compromise by doing the long distance thing but the other didn't. It was clear both had strong reasons for their stance and there was no woring this one out so both called it quits. Now knowing what I know usually Adaure Achumbahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11424139171966423687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-12141300478172198612007-11-01T19:35:00.000+00:002007-11-01T19:35:00.000+00:00Hmm, my sister after all is said and done u are th...Hmm, my sister after all is said and done u are the only one that can determine what will make you happy, individuals are different and everyone says what they think , either from real life or theory. I could give u an advise that i think is right but when faced with the same problem i might do things differently. U are the only one who knows how you would feel in each of the differet scenarios. LASGIDI/ NYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12988094561930557812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-37883835271057452852007-11-01T14:41:00.000+00:002007-11-01T14:41:00.000+00:00its amazing how sistahs like to help each other in...its amazing how sistahs like to help each other in times of need. reading thru the thread, everyone seems to have your interest at heart. but someone did say we arent prophets. you will look back several years on and wonder what would have happened if you had decided otherwise. for now get a sheet of paper and write down clearly the pros and cons of each possible scenario. and these have to be Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-33261606661834624512007-10-31T22:50:00.000+00:002007-10-31T22:50:00.000+00:00Is he your soulmate??If yes...then pack your bags ...Is he your soulmate??<BR/>If yes...then pack your bags and move to Alaska, the very fact that you sacrificed that much will spur him into moving to a location of your choice two years from now.<BR/><BR/>And you know Lagos boys na wa!! So don't expect to find something wonderful from Lagos boys.<BR/><BR/>If he is not your soulmate....then you might want to wait for the next bus!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-83209099306125144932007-10-31T22:06:00.000+00:002007-10-31T22:06:00.000+00:00It seems almost inevitable that you'll break up an...It seems almost inevitable that you'll break up and very soon start feeling much better. Good luck - I feel your pain.thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05362291064620569539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-6553929864315358252007-10-31T10:14:00.000+00:002007-10-31T10:14:00.000+00:00abeg i say free the man, let him go, he hasnt even...abeg i say free the man, let him go, he hasnt even asked u to marry hime an du want to uprrot urself and go and do boyfriend/girlfriend?? what happens when u get there and thigs dont work out??? there r still good men in lagos o hell ill hook u up if u want. abge if the guy really likes u he would support ur decisions to further ur career and wait till u r ready sef.36 INCHES OF BROWN LEGShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02201483964235747644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-64656099968834707072007-10-31T09:58:00.000+00:002007-10-31T09:58:00.000+00:00Oh dear!... Well, I think you both need to have a ...Oh dear!... Well, I think you both need to have a serious conversation about this. What's the plan for your relationship? Tell him what your fears are (Alaska & your career).<BR/>Love & relationships are about sacrifice & compromise which, ofcourse should be a two-way stream.<BR/><BR/>Personally, I don't think distance should be a ground to end a great relationship which, you say you've got. If Aijayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14665725459484396982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-40596725641308924382007-10-31T05:35:00.000+00:002007-10-31T05:35:00.000+00:00everything has been said really.everything has been said really.Zahratiquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04028435072637162138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-33630948980792933352007-10-30T23:17:00.000+00:002007-10-30T23:17:00.000+00:00Depending on your age right now, 8 years might see...Depending on your age right now, 8 years might seem like a lot to you but its really not that bad.<BR/><BR/>As for advice on wether you should move or not, I agree that it really is your decision to ponder upon based on bits of info we may not be privvy to. If it were me, I wouldn't move based on 'seeing how things go'. It would be a whole different thing if he had proposed to you... as long as TMinxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01386375072652387848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-38406130051052617632007-10-30T22:27:00.000+00:002007-10-30T22:27:00.000+00:00If he hasnt proposed to you then stay wherever you...If he hasnt proposed to you then stay wherever you want.With the age difference he should know if you will be the mother of his kids.<BR/><BR/>I believe it is better for the man to love you more than you love him.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Also your 8 yrs age difference is PERFECT ! People forget men have a better life span -you dont want to look older than your husband many years later.<BR/><BR/>Follow you Belemahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06756251982633786186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-49995085103643414292007-10-30T21:57:00.000+00:002007-10-30T21:57:00.000+00:00mr confused,in life we disagree to agree,for two t...mr confused,in life we disagree to agree,for two to work together they have to agree,a liitle compromise,i believe a woman should be on top of her career and do whats best for herself at the same time, when a man really loves a woman he will strive to make her happy,a man can be unhappy and still endure an unhappy woman means an unhappy world lol!!! well give it time if u guys cant come to an lemonade factoryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01028879764527421260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-58003476039372284162007-10-30T19:26:00.000+00:002007-10-30T19:26:00.000+00:00It is your decision to make, you decide what is im...It is your decision to make, you decide what is important. Career or a Loving man, we all know they are hard to find. I am in the same dilema myself, I am based in London and he his in Lagos.<BR/><BR/>I have a fantastic job am doing quite well in London, but I cant stand Lagos, the traffc, the constant NEPA issue ''Lights not to mention ''Water'' etc. The man in question is just starting out in Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-50785351121583759532007-10-30T17:09:00.000+00:002007-10-30T17:09:00.000+00:00My dear, I hope you're not just gonna take advice ...My dear, I hope you're not just gonna take advice from random bloggers! You will have only yourself to blame if anything goes wrong so I think you should consider things that are important and not just let people spoon-feed you with their views that come from their experiences!<BR/><BR/>Anyhow, look into things that are important to you. Like I would consider things like:<BR/>1. What is God Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-1936471691342096362007-10-30T17:04:00.000+00:002007-10-30T17:04:00.000+00:00Hey girl! Thanks for stopping by my blog, you RAWK...Hey girl! Thanks for stopping by my blog, you RAWK!!!Shaywunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352245075543627449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-48415363528064167292007-10-30T14:27:00.000+00:002007-10-30T14:27:00.000+00:00First of all, you contradicted yourself in 2 place...First of all, you contradicted yourself in 2 places in the story.<BR/>You initially said you liked to take the bull by the horns and then later, when he asked you to move, you said you were not in a hurry.<BR/>So, it seems like you don't really know what you want.I am just like that. I want one thing today and the exact opposite tomorrow.<BR/>There's no right or wrong answer to this puzzle. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-265877171109752732007-10-30T13:47:00.000+00:002007-10-30T13:47:00.000+00:00Mba, I am ot relocating anywhere. All of you askin...Mba, I am ot relocating anywhere. All of you asking her to move, k, so she does so and she is misreable freezing her yansh off in Alaska, will you come and make her hot cocoa.<BR/>If a place does not agree with you, pretty much everything else will do the same...<BR/>You need to weigh this relationship gidi-ganMs. Catwalqhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06506293561878301421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-55811992277309007032007-10-30T13:13:00.000+00:002007-10-30T13:13:00.000+00:00This is a tough call dear. I'm wondering if you ca...This is a tough call dear. I'm wondering if you can put your feelings into perspective enough to find out if giving up your job and moving to Alaska (a place you do not really like)to be with Mr. BF will make you happy in the long run? You may be bitter in the long run if being Mrs bf isnt all you wished for and more...<BR/>And why oh why doesn't bf want to relocate for you? Coulnn't he do that ♥♫♪nyemoni♫♪♥https://www.blogger.com/profile/06066949621681826170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-17791203095340773042007-10-30T10:43:00.000+00:002007-10-30T10:43:00.000+00:00I think you've got nothing to lose. As you said y...I think you've got nothing to lose. As you said you'll get your US citizenship in two years so u might as well move. You can always go back to Lagos. Getting back into your career in Lagos after two years should not be that difficult (judging by your level of education in the states). Two years together in the same place should give the relationship quality time to grow. You shouldn't have Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-29505841754217057172007-10-30T09:37:00.000+00:002007-10-30T09:37:00.000+00:00Abeg don't do anything for any penis. They are unp...Abeg don't do anything for any penis. They are unpredictable! Your happiness is what matters jare. Good man? hisssssssss where dem dey?Waffarianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06039619178621668954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-37067909203968802042007-10-30T08:52:00.000+00:002007-10-30T08:52:00.000+00:00My dear you are in a situation I see that there is...My dear you are in a situation I see that there is a clear answer. For me, I love home and regardless of any guy I go out with Ive made up my mind that either he comes with me( white black chinese etc..lol) or it aint gonna work out. Now my question to you is How much do u love home? What are your plans in Lagos? Is he financially comfortable in Alaska? If you do let go of Lagos i believe that Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-90288432254026963262007-10-30T06:17:00.000+00:002007-10-30T06:17:00.000+00:00just pray about it the bible says the steps of a g...just pray about it the bible says the steps of a good man are ordered by God .ask God what your will in my life ask Him for directions .you are positioned to be somewhere on purpose so ask God where am i positioned to be in life.dont rush to make decisions in life it may cause u grief and sorrow .let God take ABSOLUTE CONTROL over ur life.what do u really want for urself and out of dat Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30456646.post-63589566794083678332007-10-30T03:38:00.000+00:002007-10-30T03:38:00.000+00:00Ms. Confused, I like your interactiveness. My thou...Ms. Confused, I like your interactiveness. My thoughts are that irrespective of whether you move to Lagos or New York,for example, I doubt very much that this relationship will work-- especially from your end. I say this looking primarily at your description of your personalities, desires and location. Mr. Bf is comfortable being an Alaskan, appears like down the line if he tied the knot with LADYBRILLE.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00461201544864293257noreply@blogger.com